Developing emotional resilience

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21 April 2017
Written by Helen Blythe Linked-in icon

In the northern hemisphere, people I speak to are starting to count down to the summer break and the holidays they have planned.

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There’s a feeling among them that if they can just make it through the next few weeks they’ll be able to relax, recharge, and better handle the stresses of work. For a lot of people I’ve spoken to, they find themselves over these few weeks becoming more irritable, managing situations less well and losing focus on work projects. The pressure of having to do enough of the work due before you go on holiday can be an added stress.

 

One of the things it made me consider was whether there was a way that I was responding to situations that meant I wasn’t as resilient as I would like to be, and whether that was also true of others.  It can be useful to ask yourself ‘what stops me from responding in the way I would like’ and ‘what beliefs do I have that prevent me from bouncing back?’. If you work in a busy environment, or if you’re on the countdown to your next holiday and need some help in maintaining resilience while you get there, the list below will also be useful in helping you.

  •  Know that anyone can improve their resilience
  • Embrace mistakes – there’s no such thing as failure only feedback
  • Accept and anticipate change and know that change always creates opportunities as well as problems. One door closes and several more open
  • Know that flexibility is the key  to developing and enriching your resilience
  • Be aware that approval from others is not necessarily a measure of your  worth – be your own judge of that
  • Know that negative feelings are natural and not bad in themselves
  • Build strong positive relationships that can give you support
  • Learn greater self-control to manage strong feelings
  • Take action – don’t hope your problems will go away
  • Figure out what has to be done. Make a plan. Take action – be at cause rather than at effect
  • Take time for things outside of work to give you a better balance
  • Look after your own wellness, eat healthy, get some exercise and spend time outdoors

People don’t just have an emotional reaction, something else usually triggers it. By becoming aware of what leads you to feel unresourceful, frustration, anger, stress, annoyance, sadness etc, you’ll realise there’s a choice point. Over a period of time you can identify circumstances that lead you gradually towards feeling overwhelmed and you’ll be able to step in and take action before they have a significant impact on you or your work.  

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