Body Language: 7 steps to becoming instantly likeable

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11 January 2017
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We all want to be liked and accepted. Be it by our managers, our friends, family, neighbours, audiences and our other everyday crowds - but as we all know a little too well, it can be a struggle.  Sometimes there's an instant understanding or spark and others it's hit and miss - unpredictable even. 

Thankfully this doesn't have to be the case. The base foundation of building rapport and being instantly likeable is in you, your body language to be precise. Using this cheat sheet, a little simple psychology and the right body language, you'll be building instant connections in no time. 

1. Hold yourself right

Have a confident, upright posture, with your shoulders back and your chest out – it’s the first thing people notice about you. 

 2. Chin up

Keep your head up. Bringing your chin down towards the chest is perceived as submissive, while tipping your head back and looking down your nose gives you an unwelcome air of superiority.

3. Move with style

Move smoothly, gracefully and purposefully – and with an economy of effort. Fast, jerky movements are generally low impact.

4. Open up

Open body language – avoiding having arms folded or across the body -  suggests that you’re self-assured and stops you appearing defensive.

5. Smile like you mean it

A genuine smile -  immediately recognizable because the eyes sparkle - tells people you are approachable, ‘together’ and friendly. It also shows you’re interested in them and like them. The lack of a smile can make you seem miserable or uncomfortable.

6. Look ‘em in the eye!

Good eye contact is crucial to a positive first impression. If you don’t look people in the eye you come across as nervous or shifty. You should hold their gaze long enough to see the colour of their eyes and make a real connection.

7. Shake their hand – again, like you mean it

Your handshake should be firm but not crushing. Avoid the ‘dead fish’, where there’s nothing to grab hold of, or the ‘crusher’, where you leave people with bruised fingers.

So there you have it! 7 easy steps to become instantly impactful and likeable. Try them out, adapt them to your style and let us know how you get on. If you have any thoughts on the matter, we'd love to hear them! Just drop us a line through our contact page.